You Don’t Understand Me

You Don’t Understand Me

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness

was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what

I wanted to be, when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They

told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told

them they didn’t understand me.”

John Lennon, English Musician, Singer, Songwriter,

Founding Member of the Beatles

As I see it . . . . . . .

You don’t understand me

If I make you comfortable being in my presents . . . . you will communicate with me and understand me.

If I ask you questions . . . . you will tell me.

If I listen . . . . I will hear you.

If I hear you . . . . I will understand you.

If I make you feel important . . . . you will like being in my company.

You don’t understand me . . . . is deeply rooted in poor commutations.

Poor communication . . . . becomes a bi-product of not proactively listening to the person who is speaking.

You don’t understand me is at the root of close to 70% of all the divorces in the country. And a major factor of broken relationship in business and lost business opportunities.

You don’t understand me . . . . is slippery path downhill . . . . Listen to what a person is telling you . . . . and you will hear what it will take to build a strong relationship with the person and do business with them.

©2014 Lou Ludwig Motivational Power Quote, Sales and Management Consultant, Success Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Author

Communications is Interactive

Motivational Power Quote

Communications is Interactive

“Real communication is an attitude, an environment. It is the

most interactive of all processes. It requires countless hours

of eyeball to eyeball, back and forth. It involves more

listening than talking.”

Jack Walsh, Former CEO of General Electric

 

As I see it . . . . . . .

Communications is interactive

Communications is a process and the most effective communication remains face to face where the people are communicating at arm’s length distant.

Far too many people confuse the art of communication . . . . and believe that the person that has the most to say controls the communications.

In actually it has the opposite effect on communications . . . . the person that’s continually speaking . . . . loses control of the communication process along with the person that their speaking to.  

The death of communication comes from speaking too much . . . . and not listening.

Effective communications involves far more listening than it does speaking.

The effective communicator is a proactive listener . . . . and as a result gathers a great deal of useful information.

The person that conditions themselves to listen . . . . will control the communications . . . . and come out on the winning side of the conversation.

©2013 Lou Ludwig, Sales and Management Consultant, Success Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Author

When You’re Willing to Try

Motivational Power Quote

When You’re Willing to Try

“Communications is a skill that you can learn. It’s like riding

a bicycle or typing. If you’re willing to work at it, you can

rapidly improve the quality of every part of your life.”

Brian Tracy, Motivational Author and Speaker

As I see it . . . . . . .

When you’re willing to try

Communications skills are acquired . . . . The more you practice them the better your communications skill become.

When your willing to try . . . . you can sharpen your communication skills to a razor sharp edge and take them to the next level.

You can add just . . . . one new word to your vocabulary each day. After one year you will have mastered the use and understanding of 365 new words.

You can mental slow down . . . . and give the speaker your full attention and listen to them proactively when they’re speaking. By proactively listening to the person you will have a far better understanding of what they’re saying

When you listen you become . . . . a more effective communicator.

 Listen to the person and hear them out with your full attention . . . . and slow respect by don’t interrupt them.

Listen to the person who is speaking and you will learn valuable information . . . . When you speak . . . . speak with a purpose.

When your willing to try . . . . you can master your communications.

©2013 Lou Ludwig, Sales and Management Consultant, Success Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Author

Talking is Not Knowing

Motivational Power Quote

Talking is Not Knowing

“People who know little are usually great takers,

while men who know much say little.”

 Jean Jacques Rousseau 1712 – 1778, writer, composer and French expressionless          

As I see it . . . . . . .

Talking is not knowing

People with knowledge have confidence in themselves and in their knowledge.

They have learned much over the years by listening and observing, they also understand that when they are talking they are not learning.

When you engage a person with a depth of knowledge we learn more from them by listening and asking them questions, then we do by talking.

The person doesn’t have to speak to have authority or to impact a discussion. They also understand less is more and they will speak at the appropriate time and speak directly to the point.

Talking is not knowing, and in many cases the person is attempting to talk their way around the fact that lack the knowledge.

©2012 Lou Ludwig, Sales and Management Consultant, Success Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Author

The First Rule of Successful Communications

Motivational Power Quote

The First Rule of Successful Communications

“Hear much, speak little.”

Source unknown

As I see it. . . . . . . .

The first rule of successful communications


Listen to the other person to understand their wants, needs, desirers and motivation. Listening shows interest in the person that you’re speaking with and is a sign of respect


The first rule of successful communications is to listen . . . . and to listen. Effective communications is listening with interest 80% of the time and to speak with a purpose 20% of the time.


Ask questions of the person to gain deeper insight to who they really are as a person. In listening we better understand how we can assist them and how we can be of value to them.


Encourage the person to speak and proactively listen to them to fully engage them in the conversation.


The first rule of successful communications is in the art of listening.


©2011 Lou Ludwig, Sales and Management Consultant, Success Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Author